4 Ways To Deal With A Bully
Follow up questions for the video were sent out by Lance Ramer and Kathy Englebrecht for a post discussion during homeroom.This leaves the door open for kids to come to us for their advocate if a specific situation arises.
I have worked in several schools and I must admit that my School Head is on POINT when dealing with these situations. She just has her finger on the pulse of our middle school students. So lucky to be working with her and learning her tricks of the trade to grow my personal awareness and be able to collaborate with my peer faculty members.
4 Ways to Deal with a Bully – Summary of Responses
1) What did you think of the video?
Good source of information
Helpful – interesting to watch
Different version of information
Different than what they expected
Good examples – shorter is more effective
Now know what the signs meant
2) What is the main takeaway from the video?
You are the BBQ Sauce
Need to be nice to everyone, even if everyone doesn’t like you
4 ways to deal with a bully
Relaxed – casual people talking about bullying
Bullies are bad
Stand up for people without being mean
We should not be complacent – need to help others
3) How common is bullying here at Maclay?
Much better here than other places
Kids feel safe here
See it a lot – Happens Frequently (break & lunch)
More verbal bullying – “just joking” – sarcastic & shady
Not at all
Pretty common – teasing
No physical bullying
People are too sensitive
Most are benevolent, however some can be malevolent
4) Does age make a difference?
Going to theatre
HS @ lunch – MS @ drama
Yes & No – bullying should not take place
Some older kids think they have power over the younger kids
8th graders are being rude to 7th graders
Older kids think it’s cool to pick on younger folks
Younger kids won’t stand up to older kids
Worse in lower school
5) Are there differences in the bullying experience of girls and boys?
Girls talk behind your back and think that they are better than you
Boys make fun of each other
Girls are biggest bullies – gossip
Boys tease each other more, but get over it
Girls have more drama and are meaner
Girls over react with everything
Guys are more physical – Girls are verbal
Don’t think boys realize they’re bullying
Girls more sensitive
Getting cut from athletic teams can be hard because people talk about you
6) Who do children tell when they are being bullied?
Mom, Sister, Teachers
Tell their friends, especially girls
Boys would tell and adult if they thought someone’s life was in danger
Scared to tell & be labeled a snitch
Guidance – Mrs. Smith
Teachers they’ve known for a while
Parents or their Regent
7) Why don’t some children tell?
Easier to not get involved
Maybe they think if they tell the other person will bully them more
Become a bigger target/Make things worse
Afraid others won’t talk to them
Bully would tell them not to tell. If they did they would not have friends and other students would give them a hard time.
8) What does it feel like to be bullied?
I don’t like being taken advantage of
I haven’t been bullied – harassed (bullying is everyday & consistent…harassment is less frequent)
Bad/Saddening – feel like alone
Ruptures your soul, and it is quite abrupt
9) What is the role of peers in bullying?
Must standup/confront the bully
Depends on the type of bullying – Verbal v Physical
There’s a small group of people in each grade that would talk
Most people would just watch & not speak up
Depends on how bad the problem gets/context
Support the person being bullied – emotionally
10) Are some children more likely to bully than others?
Can’t be explained – jealousy
If you grow up a bully, you’ll continue to be one
Bullies come from unfortunate/uncomfortable lives and bad situations
Bullies are insecure & they need to bully to feel secure & not worry
Small school lends to less bullying because you know everyone